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Top Ten Ways to Know You’re In Love

1. You’re in love if you think about them all of the time.

Well yah, I didn’t say that everything on this list would be profound or anything. This one is a no-brainer. If you love someone, they’re going to be in your thoughts all the time. In fact, you won’t be able to get them out of your head. Look at the rest of the indicators before coming to a conclusion, though, because this one could also mean that you’re just plain nuts.

2. You’re in love if everything reminds you of them.

Someone asks you to pass the ketchup and it reminds you of them. A flock of geese fly overhead and it reminds you of them. You get the picture. Oh, and for some reason, when you’re in love it seems like every new person you meet or see on TV or hear a story about has the same name as the person you’re in love with. I don’t know why that is, it just happens.

3. You’re in love if you care more about their safety and happiness than you do about your own.

For some weird and inexplicable reason, the whole “looking out for number one” thing you’ve been doing your whole life desolves away and gets replaced by an overwhelming urge to make sure that special person is as safe, comfortable and happy as possible. No, I’m serious. This totally because your number one priority. It’s kind of like getting super powers, in a way; you’d be amazed at what little-old-you is capable of when you’re trying to protect or provide for the one you love.

4. You’re in love if you start caring more about your own appearance.

Suddenly, without warning, you find yourself wanting to actually iron the wrinkled jeans that have been sitting in the dryer for the last three days before you wear them. If you’re about to see that person who you can’t get out of your mind, there suddenly seems to be a whole lot of reflective surfaces around to check yourself out in.

5. You’re in love if you’re actually interested in knowing more about them.

You can forget about the days when you went home from a date remembering absolutely nothing about the interests, career and dreams of the person you went out with. Finding out all about this fantastic person is your new favorite thing to do. If you could find a book detailing every minute detail of their life, you wouldn’t sleep or eat until you read every last paragraph.

6. You’re in love if you want to impress them.

You’ve always tried to be modest, but suddenly you feel like you’re a politician fighting to win the most important election ever in the history of the universe. You make sure that the faded newspaper article about you winning your third-grade spelling bee is left nonchalantly on the coffeetable when they come to visit. And you keep them as far as possible from that great aunt who loves to tell all of the embarrassing stories about you.

7. You’re in love if you aren’t as tight with your money or time anymore.

There was a time when the idea of shelling out your hard-earned money to buy someone dinner or a gift would have horrified you. Sure, you would buy an occasional round for your friends or bring grandma flowers on her birthday, but spending any more money than absolutely necessary just wasn’t going to happen. But now, no price seems too high as long as it makes that special someone happy.

8. You’re in love if hanging out with your friends just isn’t as appealing any more.

Remember when you and your friends made fun of the former buddy who ditched your gang to hang out with their new boyfriend or girlfriend? And when the thought of abandoning your friends to spend time with a member of the opposite sex seemed like sacrilege? Well you can try to deny it all you want, but you’re finding yourself constantly thinking about being with that special someone … even when you’re surrounded by your buddies!

9. You’re in love if commitment is actually starting to sound like something you could stand.

What, you commit to something that requires you to be faithful and responsible? Oh, the horror! What strange, evil spell has been cast upon you that would actually make you excited about a long-term relationship or even marriage with someone? Did someone slip something into your drink? Are you going insane? No. You’re probably in love, knucklehead.

10. You’re in love if you just aren’t noticing other members of the opposite sex.

Oh, the people you used to stare at are still there … you just aren’t noticing them anymore. For some bizarre reason, that special someone has suddenly become infinitely more attractive to you than any other person on the face of the planet. People who you used to think were good-looking suddenly pale in comparison to the one you’ve found yourself falling in love with.

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I Love You More

May 2, 2008 - 13:16 — sandeep

“I LOVE YOU MORE”

I love you more
than the stars are bright,
the sun is hot,
or the moon is high….

I love you more
than the mountain peaks,
the snow is white,
or the valley is deep…

I love you more
than the ocean is blue,
the waves lap the shores,
or the beach is long…

I love you more
than the grass is green,
the trees are tall,
or the sky is blue…

I love you more
than all of nature’s beauty…
Because my love surpasses
all time and place…

And because of this…
~I love you more~….

A friend is someone who knows the song in your heart and can sing it back to you when you have forgotten the words……………

— UNKNOWN

In times of despair, Lord help me see that friends and family, and change and healing are in site

— Moment of Quiet Reflection
Publications International, Ltd

Love is Life

I think love is life, we all should fall in love at least once a life, so we understand the true meaning of life. Love truly explore the life & mean to feel the soul.

Missing you…quotes…

November 5, 2007 - 11:56 — rekha

When I miss you, sometimes I listen to music or look at pictures of you, not to remind me of you but to make me feel as if I’m with you. It makes me forget the distance and capture you.

If you think missing me is hard, you should try missing you

A hug for you means I need you. A kiss for you means I love you. A call for you means I’m missing you.

I miss the way you used to hug me, I miss the way you used to kiss my lips, but most of all I miss the way you held me and my heart. I miss you…

You are the sun in my day, the wind in my sky, the waves in my ocean and the beat in my heart… I Miss You…

I am waiting and hoping and wishing for the time, when we can be together again! I Miss You!

When you miss me just look up to the night sky and remember, I’m like a star; sometimes you can’t see me, but I’m always there.

I think of you with every waking moment of my life and dream of you with every dream that I have; I miss you.

Why Women Cry

March 8, 2008 - 01:29 — sandeep

Why Women Cry
Watch her eyes

A little boy asked his mother, ‘Why are you crying?’ ‘Because I’m a woman,’ she told him.

‘I don’t understand,’ he said. His Mom just hugged him and said, ‘And you never will.’

Later the little boy asked his father, ‘Why does mother seem to cry for no reason?’

‘All women cry for no reason,’ was all his dad could say.

The little boy grew up and became a man, still wondering why women cry..

Finally he put in a call to God. When God got on the phone, he asked, ‘God, why do women cry so easily?’

God said

‘When I made the woman she had to be special.

I made her shoulders strong enough to carry the weight of the world,yet gentle enough to give comfort.

I gave her an inner strength to endure childbirth and the rejection that many times comes from her children.

I gave her a hardness that allows her to keep going when everyone else gives up, and take care of her family through sickness and fatigue without complaining.

I gave her the sensitivity to love her children under any and all circumstances, even when her child has hurt her very badly.

I gave her strength to carry her husband through his faults and fashioned her from his rib to protect his heart.

I gave her wisdom to know that a good husband never hurts his wife, but sometimes tests her strengths and her resolve to stand beside him unfalteringly.

And finally, I gave her a tear to shed. This is hers exclusively to use whenever it is needed.’

‘You see my son,’ said God, ‘the beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair.

The beauty of a woman must be seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart - the place where love resides.’

What do women really want? May 15, 2008 - 08:20 — sandeep

This is very interesting……….(to women) please take time to ponder……..(to men) enjoy the story……..

Young King Arthur was ambushed and imprisoned by the monarch of a neighboring kingdom. The monarch could have killed him but was moved by Arthur’s youth and ideals. So, the monarch offered him his freedom, as long as he could answer a very difficult question. Arthur would have a year to figure out the answer and, If after a year, he still had no answer, he would be put to death.

The question was: What do women really want?
Such a question would perplex even the most knowledgeable man, And to young Arthur, it seemed an impossible query. But, since it was better than death, He accepted the monarch’s proposition to have an answer by year’s end. He returned to his kingdom and began to poll everyone: The princess, the priests, the wise men, and even the court jester. He spoke with everyone, but no one could give him a satisfactory answer.

Many people advised him to consult the old witch, For only she would have the answer. But the price would be high as the witch was famous through out the kingdom for the exorbitant prices she charged. The last day of the year arrived and Arthur had no choice but to talk to the witch. She agreed to answer the question, but he would have to agree to her price first. The old witch wanted to marry Sir Lancelot, The most noble of the Knights of the Round Table, And Arthur’s closest friend! Young Arthur was horrified.

She was hunch-backed and hideous, had only one tooth, Smelled like sewage, made obscene noises, etc. He had never encountered such a repugnant creature in all his life. He refused to force his friend to marry her and endure such a terrible burden, But Lancelot, having learnt of the proposal, spoke with Arthur. He said nothing was too big of a sacrifice compared to Arthur’s life. And the reservation of the Round Table. Hence, a wedding was proclaimed and the witch answered. Arthur’s question thus: “What a woman really wants?”

She said, “*Is to be in charge of her own life.*”

Everyone in the kingdom instantly knew that the witch had uttered a great truth. And that Arthur’s life would be spared. And so it was. The neighboring monarch granted Arthur his freedom.
And Lancelot and the witch had a wonderful wedding. The honeymoon hour approached and, Lancelot, steeling himself for a horrific experience, entered the bedroom. But, what a sight awaited him.

The most beautiful woman he had ever seen lay before him on the bed. The astounded Lancelot asked what had happened. The beauty replied that since he had been so kind to her when she appeared as a witch, She would henceforth be her horrible and deformed self only half the time. And the beautiful maiden the other half.

“Which would you prefer? She asked him. “Beautiful during the day …. or at night?”
Lancelot pondered the predicament. During the day he could have a beautiful woman to show off to his friends, But at night, in the privacy of his castle, an old witch!
Or,
Would he prefer having a hideous witch during the day?
But by night a beautiful woman for him to enjoy wondrous, intimate moments with?

(If you are a *man* reading this…) *What would YOUR choice be?*
(If you are a *woman* reading this) *What would YOUR MAN’S choice be?*
What Lancelot chose, is given below:
BUT… make YOUR choice before you scroll down below… OKAY?

Noble Lancelot, knowing the answer the witch gave Arthur to his question, He said that he would allow *HER* to make the choice herself.

Upon hearing this, she announced that she would be beautiful all the time. Because, he had respected her enough to let her be in charge of her own life.

Now… what is the moral to this story?

The moral is…
1) There is a witch in every woman no matter how beautiful she is!
2) If you don’t let a woman have her own way, things are going to get ugly.

So, always remember:

IT’S EITHER “HER WAY” OR IT’S “NO WAY”

You have captured MY HEART…

April 9, 2008 - 11:56 — sandeep

My heart you’ve captured
My mind you’ve seduced
In my hands I hold closely
Your heart so ever tightly.

Your passion, so ever deep
Felt within your every kiss
Your heart, is my doorway
Felt within your sweet lips.

Your touch, is so desirable
So tender with every stroke
Your heart plays me a song
So beautiful with every note.

Your eyes, are my windows
I see the beauty deep within
With open arms I will await
For you to fall so deeply in

Finding Your Life Partner (CD Album)

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"When we focus on status, we destroy any chance to live an authentic life with a partner who shares..."

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When we focus on status, we destroy any chance to live an authentic life with a partner who shares our values. These are the questions you really want answered:

* Are you working in your chosen profession?
* How many hours a week do you work?
* What is your dream job?
* What is your retirement plan? What do you plan to do when you stop working?
* What does your job entail? (For example: Do you often travel for business, work at home or perform dangerous tasks?)

* What is your annual income?
* Should individuals within a marriage have separate bank accounts in addition to joint accounts?
* Do you have significant debts?
* Do you believe in establishing a family budget?
* How important is it for you to make a lot of money?

Men and women have different issues with owning their sexuality. For men, it is denying the significance of sex and not seeing the sacredness in the act. For women, it is more often ignorance and shame, not giving themselves permission to know what they need and then matching it with their behavior. In a conversation about your sexual expectations and fears, be sure to respect each other’s boundaries. Your goal in asking these questions is not to pry into every detail of sexual history, but to open a conversation about the most intimate aspect of your relationship.

What sexual activities do you enjoy most? Are there specific sexual acts that make you uncomfortable? Be specific!

* Do you feel comfortable initiating sex? If yes, why? If no, why?
* What do you need in order to be in the mood for sex?
* How often do you need or expect sex?
* Is sexual fidelity an absolute necessity in a good marriage?

* Do you want children? When? How many? Are you unable to have children?
* Do you believe that children should be raised with some religious or spiritual foundation?
* How important is it to you that your children are raised near your extended family?
* Do you believe in spanking a child? What type of discipline do you believe in (time outs, standing in the corner, taking away privileges, etc.)?
* Should boys be treated the same as girls? Should they have the same rules for conduct? Should you have the same expectations for their sexual behavior?

So when you’re having a conversation about religion, open it up beyond affiliation, and find out what religion means to each of you.

* Do you believe in God? What does that mean to you?
* Do you have a current religious affiliation? Is it a big part of your life?
* Does your religion impose any behavioral restrictions (dietary, social, familial, sexual) that would affect your partner?
* How important is it to you for your partner to share your religious beliefs?
* How important is it to you for your children to be raised in your religion?

”

- What to ask before marriage

276 QUESTIONS TO ASK BEFORE YOU MARRY

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276 QUESTIONS TO ASK BEFORE YOU MARRY

"Question 1: What percentage of our income are we prepared to spend to purchase and maintain our home..."

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Question 1: What percentage of our income are we prepared to spend to purchase and maintain our home on a monthly or annual basis?

Question 2: Who is responsible for keeping our house and yard cared for and organized? Are we different in our needs for cleanliness and organization?

Question 3: How much money do we earn together? Now? In one year? In five years? Ten? Who is responsible for which portion? Now? In one year? Five? Ten?

Question 4: What is our ultimate financial goal regarding annual income, and when do we anticipate achieving it? By what means and through what efforts?

Question 5: What are our categories of expense (rent, clothing, insurance, travel)? How much do we spend monthly, annually, in each category? How much do we want to be able to spend?

Question 6: How much time will each of us spend at work, and during what hours? Do we begin work early? Will we prefer to work into the evening?

Question 7: If one of us doesn’t want to work, under what circumstances, if any, would that be okay?

Question 8: How ambitious are you? Are we comfortable with the other’s level of ambition?

Question 9: Am I comfortable giving and receiving love sexually? In sex, does my partner feel my love for him or her?

Question 10: Are we satisfied with the frequency of our lovemaking? How do we cope when our desire levels are unmatched? A little? A lot? For a night? A week? A month? A year? More?

Question 11: Do we eat meals together? Which ones? Who is responsible for the food shopping? Who prepares the meals? Who cleans up afterward?

Question 12: Is each of us happy with the other’s approach to health? Does one have habits or tendencies that concern the other (e.g., smoking, excessive dieting, poor diet)?

Question 13: What place does the other’s family play in our family life? How often do we visit or socialize together? If we have out-of-town relatives, will we ask them to visit us for extended periods? How often?

Question 14: If we have children, what kind of relationship do we hope our parents will have with their grandchildren? How much time will they spend together?

Question 15: Will we have children? If so, when? How many? How important is having children to each of us?

Question 16: How will having a child change the way we live now? Will we want to take time off from work, or work a reduced schedule? For how long? Will we need to rethink who is responsible for housekeeping?

Question 17: Are we satisfied with the quality and quantity of friends we currently have? Would we like to be more involved socially? Are we overwhelmed socially and need to cut back on such commitments?

Question 18: What are my partner’s needs for cultivating or maintaining friendships outside our relationship? Is it easy for me to support those needs, or do they bother me in any way?

Question 19: Do we share a religion? Do we belong to a church, synagogue, mosque or temple? More than one? If not, would our relationship benefit from such an affiliation?

Question 20: Does one of us have an individual spiritual practice? Is the practice and the time devoted to it acceptable to the other? Does each partner understand and respect the other’s choices?

”

- 20 marriage questions

You {{may}} stay together longer by:

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Steps to possibly, potentially lower the divorce rate

— Being at least 25 years old.
If you marry before the age of 25, you may have a lack of life experience and communication skills, low incomes, and are getting married for the wrong reasons. Waiting until you are at least 25 years old gives your brain a chance to reach the point of intellectual maturity, also known as the “age of reason.”

Adults think with the prefrontal cortex. That’s the rational portion of the brain.
Teens think with the amygdala. That’s the instinctual and emotional portion of the brain.

—The couple’s income together is at least $50,000 a year.
Financial problems are the number one reason that couples divorce. When the two of you are stressed over coping with overdue bills, broken dreams, different spending and saving expectations, bill collectors, and fear that you could lose everything, arguments and misunderstandings increase, and your marriage ends up very low on your priority list.

— You are purchasing a home, considering purchasing a home, or saving towards the purchase of a home together.
Although owning a home can limit the free time a couple has and may create additional financial stress on a couple, the purchase of a home is a sign of a commitment to stay together and to build your future together.
Just think twice about remodeling a home.

— You have attended or are planning on attending a premarital class.
As more churches and communities require couples to have premarital education, new research is showing that these couples have less hurtful conflicts and a higher sense of marital satisfaction.
Learn more about premarital education.

"Wrong Reasons to Get Married * Want to be free from parents. * To have sex. * To ease..."

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Wrong Reasons to Get Married

* Want to be free from parents.
* To have sex.
* To ease loneliness.
* To be happy.
* To be an adult.
* Because of a pregnancy.
* He or she loves you.
* To save or help someone.
* Because you want a baby.
* For money.
* Because all your friends are married.
* You’ve always wanted a fancy wedding.
* Out of fear that no one else will want to marry you.
* For immigration purposes.

Right Reasons to Get Married

* You are in love with one another.
* A desire to share your life with another.
* To have a lifetime companion.
* Realistic expectations.
* Willingness to help one another fulfill their own needs and dreams.

”

- Engagement Reasons

Financial Differences How do you think your upbringing, culture, and gender are influencing how each of you approach money? Do you know what your financial personalities are?

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Financial Differences How do you think your upbringing, culture, and gender are influencing how each of you approach money? Do you know what your financial personalities are?

Yes or No

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Know Your Spouse
Answer yes or no:

* I prefer red wine to white wine.
* I squeeze toothpaste from the bottom of the tube.
* Valentine’s Day is important to me.
* I prefer cats to dogs for house pets.
* I do not want animals as house pets.
* I enjoy cooking.

~ ~ ~ ~

* I think it is OK to ask our parents for advice in financial matters.
* I prefer waterbeds to regular beds.
* Quality time to me is the two of us alone.
* I want children right away - at least within the first three years.
* It is all right for a couple to live together before marriage.
* I would like to have a child of my own sex even if it means trying again after we have reached the number of children that we have agreed on.

~ ~ ~ ~

* I want a one level house.
* I like to tell gross jokes.
* I would be open to adoption if we can’t conceive children on our own.
* Smoking bothers me.
* We will mutually decide on our children’s names.
* I prefer reading to watching TV.

~ ~ ~ ~

* It is OK to charge things like clothes, travel and other expenses on charge cards and carry the credit balance for a few months before paying it off.
* Hair left on soap in the shower bothers me.
* I enjoy improving my home with paintings, sculptures, etc.
* I like apples more than oranges.
* I like my home to be a place where friends gather informally.
* I obey the posted speed limit.

~ ~ ~ ~

* I would shower together with my spouse.
* I’m an impulsive spender.
* I believe we will save more than $200 from our income each month.
* It is important that we eat dinner together as a family.
* I would not mind vacationing by myself sometimes.
* I would enjoy visiting an art museum.

~ ~ ~ ~

* My fiance will say that I get along well with his/her parents.
* I see nothing wrong with the man being the primary cook in our house.
* I don’t like anyone to use my pen.
* I would rather be cremated than buried.
* We should make a will within six months of marriage.
* I would be willing to move to advance my spouse’s career.

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* I save recyclable materials.
* Both of us should work after we have children.
* The most important thing we can give our children is security.
* I like to watch TV in bed.
* I would prefer attending a party to reading.
* I enjoy dinner by candlelight.

~ ~ ~ ~

* Asking for a date is only a man’s prerogative.
* We will open our gifts on Christmas Eve.
* I am sometimes the life of the party.
* I feel comfortable discussing sex.
* I believe that clothes should be separated by fabric and/or color before washing.
* I believe prayer is an important part of my life.

~ ~ ~ ~

* I like beards on men.
* There is a correct way to hang toilet paper.
* I like to watch sports on TV.
* I like meat and potatoes better than casserole.
* I believe that clothes should be line-dried rather than machine dried.
* Good sex ends in mutual climax.

~ ~ ~ ~

* I enjoy country music.
* Religious training is important for children.
* We will open a joint bank account.
* I like ketchup on eggs.
* I believe regular church attendance is important.
* I believe that the toilet should be covered by the lid when not in use.

~ ~ ~ ~

* If there is something between us we should talk it out before having sex.
* I enjoy dinner by candlelight.
* I prefer to live in a condo or apartment rather than an individual house.
* I prefer comedy movies to horror movies.
* It will be OK to borrow money from our parents if we need to.
* I enjoy classical music.

~ ~ ~ ~

* Religion should play an important part in one’s life.
* When I get mad, I need time to cool down, then I can talk.
* Excessive drinking is always unacceptable.
* The word later can mean more than one day.
* I prefer chocolate much more than vegetables.
* I think it is OK to call mom once a day to chat and see how things are going.

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* I am more of a leader than a follower.
* Sex is the most important factor in a successful relationship.
* I find profanity in a social gathering objectionable.
* We will both be involved in cooking, house cleaning, laundry and yard work.
* I believe that prayers are answered.
* Infidelity is grounds for divorce.

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* I like to sleep in the nude.
* I believe we both should have life insurance and should buy it asap.
* It is important that we attend church together on a regular basis.
* I want a pet.
* We will have sex whenever I want to.
* Warmth and affection are important in a happy marriage.

~ ~ ~ ~

"1. Do you want to have children? Thinking that you can deal with this issue later in your marriage..."

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1. Do you want to have children?
Thinking that you can deal with this issue later in your marriage is a mistake.
Making a decision to have a baby when one parent doesn’t want to have children is not fair to the child or to your marriage.

2. Can we talk about money?
If how your money is spent, or saved, or not spent is an issue before you get married, it will be an even bigger issue after your wedding.
If your future spouse doesn’t want to talk about money, or doesn’t think talking about money is important, postpone your wedding until this issue is solved.

3. Can we talk about sex?
There is no way of predicting the future when it comes to an individual’s sexual libido.
However, if the two of you are already having sexual issues, you shouldn’t get married until the issues are settled.

4. How much time will we spend with our in-laws?
They may be wonderful people who love you both, but your in-laws should not be allowed to interfere in your marriage relationship.
If either one of you will not set boundaries with your own parents when it comes to visits, phone calls, finances, children, etc., the problem with your in-laws will only worsen.

5. Will you clean the toilet?
If the answer is “no” or “why should I?” or “Isn’t that your job?”, you have several options.

* You can hire someone to do the chores that neither of you wants to do.

* You can accept that you will be doing 90% of the chores around the house.

* You can discuss the importance of sharing the household chores together.

If none of these options work out, call off the wedding. This is another one of those issues that won’t suddenly get better after you sign the marriage license.

6. How do you want to spend our days off?

The answer to this question will reveal several things.

* How your future spouse likes to spend free time.
* The value your future spouse places on having fun together.
* Whether or not you will come first before work.

Balancing work and fun and family time and personal time is not easy.

7. How often do you drink?
The answer to this question, or to questions about smoking cigarettes or using drugs, will reveal whether or not your future spouse has a potential addiction problem which could end up not only threatening your marriage but could also put you in legal and financial jeopardy.

8. Have you ever hit someone?
If your future spouse has anger management issues, or tries to control who you see and what you do, or is causing you to walk on egg shells, cancel your wedding.
These are signs of a potentially abusive personality. Don’t think you can “save” him or her. You can’t. This is a problem that needs professional counseling.

9. Do you think it is important to be faithful to one another?
If your future spouse and you have differing opinions on what cheating is or isn’t, don’t get married until this issue has been discussed.

10. What do you think we’ll be doing in thirty or forty years?
If your future spouse can’t answer this or won’t answer this, then the two of you need to talk about long-lasting marriage expectations.
Why marry someone who doesn’t think your marriage will last?

”

- Ten tense engagement issues

"* Why are we getting married? Pregnancy, financial security, loneliness or wanting to get out of..."

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* Why are we getting married? Pregnancy, financial security, loneliness or wanting to get out of the family home are not valid reasons to get married.

* What do we as a couple want out of life?

* Have you ever hit someone?

* Do you have a criminal record?

* Are you willing to replace the toilet tissue roll?

* What was your childhood like?

* Was your family an affectionate one?

* Do you think we will have problems with your family during the holidays?

* What values do you want to bring from your family into our marriage?

* What do you like and dislike about your family?

* what do you like and dislike about my family?

* What do you like and dislike about your parents’ marriage?

* What do you like and dislike about my parents’ marriage?

# How would you describe yourself?

# How do you think I see you?

# Am I a jealous person?

# Do I have trust issues or feel insecure?

# How important is affirmation to me?

# Do I handle compliments well?

# What is your love language?

* Words of Affirmation
This is when you say how nice your spouse looks, or how great the dinner tasted. These words will also build your mate’s self image and confidence.

* Quality Time
Some spouses believe that being together, doing things together and focusing in on one another is the best way to show love. If this is your partner’s love language, turn off the TV now and then and give one another some undivided attention.

* Gifts
It is universal in human cultures to give gifts. They don’t have to be expensive to send a powerful message of love. Spouses who forget a birthday or anniversary or who never give gifts to someone who truly enjoys gift giving will find themselves with a spouse who feels neglected and unloved.

* Acts of Service
Discovering how you can best do something for your spouse will require time and creativity. These acts of service like vacuuming, hanging a bird feeder, planting a garden, etc., need to be done with joy in order to be perceived as a gift of love.

* Physical Touch
Sometimes just stroking your spouse’s back, holding hands, or a peck on the cheek will fulfill this need.

Determining Your Own Love Language
Since you may be speaking what you need, you can discover your own love language by asking yourself these questions:

* How do I express love to others?
* What do I complain about the most?
* What do I request most often?

Speaking in your spouse’s love language probably won’t be natural for you. Dr. Chapman says, “We’re not talking comfort. We’re talking love. Love is something we do for someone else. So often couples love one another but they aren’t connecting. They are sincere, but sincerity isn’t enough.”

# Do you think we listen to one another well?

# Do you think it is important to know one another’s physical and mental health histories?

# Will you clean the toilet?

# How are we going to divide up the household chores?

# What are your expectations about how we will spend our free time?

# Do you believe that we should be doing everything together?

# Can we each pursue our own interests?

# Do you need or want time alone?

# How would you feel if I want a night out with my friends now and then?

# How will we make sure we have quality time together?

# Are you a saver or spender when it comes to money?

# Do you want to have a budget?

# Should we have a joint checking account or separate accounts or both?

# Who is going to be responsible for making sure that bills are paid on time?

# Do you consider going to the movies and having a vacation every year a necessity or a luxury?

# How much do we owe in debts and what are our assets?

# Where does our money go?

# What are our financial goals?

# Do you have any outstanding fines or debts?

# What are our future plans for purchasing a home?

# Do we both know where our important financial documents are located?

# Do we want to have children?

# If we decide we do, how many children do you want to have?

# How long should we be married before having children?

# What kind of parent do you think you will be?

# What is your parenting philosophy?

# Will one of us stay home after we have children?

# What type of birth control should we use if we want to postpone or prevent parenthood?

# How do you feel about adoption?

# Do you have any children already?

# Does religion play an important part in your life?

# Do you think faith and spirituality are important in a marriage?

# What is your image of God?

* Should we talk about sex?

* Are you comfortable discussing your sexual likes and dislikes?

* What are your expectations of our sexual relationship?

* How will we make decisions together?

* Are we both willing to face into difficult areas or do we try to avoid conflict?

* Do you think we have problems in our relationship that we need to deal with before our wedding?

* Do we handle conflict well?

* How are we different?

* Do you think our differences will create problems in our marriage?

* Do you expect or want me to change?

* Can we both forgive?

* Are we both willing to work on our communication skills and to share intimately with each other?

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- Engagement Questions and Love languages

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The most important relationship any of us ever has is with our heavenly Father!!

Lamentations 3:22-24 (New International Version)

22 Because of the LORD’s great love we are not consumed,
for his compassions never fail.

23 They are new every morning;
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24 I say to myself, “The LORD is my portion;
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Purpose

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The purpose of having this blog be about relationships is the simple fact that everything we do in life involves relationships. Nobody can do anything alone. You’re born because of others, you affect others with your actions and you depend on others to help you through different changes in life.
To get a driver’s license, you need someone to give you a road test. To be a great leader, you must have once been a great student with a great teacher. We all need each other and need to be there for each other.

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I see the beauty deep within
With open arms I will await
For you to fall so deeply in